Hi! I know it’s been a while, but life happens and other things take priority and the days just go by way too fast — and here we are in December. This little blog still holds a special place in my heart — and so does the couple being featured today.
Being only 18 months apart, my brother and I were always the closest growing up — and then he met Kerry. She fit right in — and has been a part of my family long before they got married. I have never met two people more perfect for each other. Their wedding day was so special, so touching and will remain one of my favorite memories of all time.
I’ll let Kerry do the rest of the talking… I hope you enjoy their story as much as I do.
What’s your love story?
Col and I actually first met about 15 years ago. Having grown up in adjacent towns our groups of friends started overlapping in 8th grade. The exact first time we ever met was when he was dating a girlfriend of mine and a group of us went to the movies together – although I’m not sure he really remembers this.
Throughout high school and college we continued to have the same friends and eventually began to develop a friendship of our own. Though we had a few moments (ahem, make out sessions) over the years that could have started a more serious relationship, it wasn’t until the summer before senior year of college that Col got the courage to ask me out on a proper date. I’m not sure either one of us really thought this would be “it” when we began dating that summer, as we were both returning to different schools in different states, but when it came time to go back to school, it wasn’t even a question if we were going to be staying together or not.
Six years later – after a cross-country road trip, a move to Chicago and one fur baby (Max!) – he got up the courage again and asked me to be his wife! We’ll be together seven and a half years this Christmas and I can honestly say that it’s been an incredible ride so far. I can only imagine what the next 7 (and 10 and 20 and so on) will bring!
When / where was your wedding?
We got married on Saturday, October 4, 2014 at The Peggy Notebaert Nature Museum in the Lincoln Park neighborhood of Chicago.
What made your wedding dress you?
I had a really hard time with the dress selecting process…every dress was gorgeous and a lot felt like they could be the one. But I remember putting this one on and something felt different. I had a natural affinity towards lace and I was really drawn towards dresses that had an interesting back. (Originally I really wanted a Grecian style dress with a drapey loose back but quickly found out I didn’t have the body for it). This dress had both of those things. It was simple, yet the soft lace and silhouette gave it a really classic feel. And then the back gave it a little bit of extra “fun-ness.” I remember I cried and said “I think this is the one” and with that my mom was downstairs writing the check, which was terrifying but also exactly what needed to happen. I knew if I kept looking, I’d be looking forever so in hindsight I’m so glad she pulled the trigger.
In the end, it really was everything I wanted it to be and more. We added the thin crystal belt (BHLDN) at my last fitting and it really brought it all together. I felt incredibly beautiful and it felt really “me.” I love the vintage, classic looks of past times and my dress, for me at least, had a similar feeling. It felt timeless but the back made it a little more current than lace dresses of the past. Now if only it was socially acceptable to wear your wedding dress in public after your wedding…
Tell me a little about the theme of your wedding? Any little details that stood out?
To be honest, I actually loved that we had no real theme or color scheme to our wedding. Though gold was definitely the most prominent tone, we ended up mixing in a lot of the vibrant fall colors with our flowers and a little navy here and there (the bridesmaid’s dresses, invitations and, of course, Colin’s suit) and I was so happy with how it turned out.
There were definitely a few stand-out things that felt really “us” though. Instead of basic table numbers, Col and I decided to name each table after one of our favorite places from our travels or life experiences. Having road-tripped for 3 months together, we had a lot of these but some of them had even more significance like our home state (NJ), my birth place (San Antonio) and Chicago (obviously), which felt really fun to include our guests in on.
Our cake was also one of my favorite things – which is surprising to me, as I’m not a huge cake fan. Being that it was made by one of our good friends, it was more about the fact that someone we know and love made it for us than the cake itself – although it was insanely tasty! We were really honored that she was willing to take on such a daunting task and could not have asked for anything more perfect than what she did. I remember Col and I just stood and stared at it for a few minutes when we first saw it. I think we were both in awe that she had given us that gift.
Above all else though, our ceremony really was my favorite. It was inside the museum’s lobby, which ended up being perfectly intimate, and officiated by Reverend Bruce Otto. I’m not really sure how to describe it but I think the fact that we spent a lot of time deciding the wording of much of the ceremony combined with us writing our own vows that made it feel so right and so perfectly reflective of who we are that I would not have changed a thing. There were laughs, tears, readings from dear family members, and even a ring drop by yours truly but I loved every second of it.
What’s one piece of advice you’d give other brides?
Oh man, this one is hard! There’s of course the advice of “take it all in” and “enjoy every second” as it really does go by in a flash but my best helpful (hopefully) piece of advice is to accept help when it’s offered. For micro-managers, like me, it was hard to relinquish control over some of the many wedding tasks. I had so many people who offered to help and looking back, I didn’t take advantage as much as I should have, which would have alleviated some stress in those last few months/weeks. It can definitely feel like you’re giving up control of the most important day of your life, but there are so many little things that you can hand over to friends or family to do, or even just start/finish, that will still have your stamp on them in the end.
My only other thought – and, I’m sorry I know this is more than one piece of advice – is to just be you. It’s easy to get tripped up by all the things that may be tradition or what so-and-so did at their wedding, but in the end, it’s about you and your soon-to-be-hubby (or wifey). Make decisions based on what feels right for you and what suits your taste and try not to worry too much about others concerns or wants. In the end it will all come together and on the big day everyone will be so happy to celebrate you and your marriage that those other things won’t even matter.
Photography by Kina Wicks. Last photo taken by yours truly the day after the wedding.